No and Can't

How often do you say NO to yourself or tell yourself that you CAN'T do something?
Is it a quick response? or is it something you put thought into?
For most of us a NO and I CAN'T is a rapid word voiced, we have programmed ourselves through the years to automatically place limits around ourselves.
We don't take the time to ask ourselves a few questions:

1. Why am I saying NO or I CAN'T


2. Do I really not want to do this
3. Is this a decision coming from fear
4. Is this an old aspect of myself speaking or is this the current me.
I am not saying that we should not voice a NO or CAN'T
what I am saying is that we often need to define for ourselves if it is a common response whether or not it is what we want or need in our current physical and mental space.
We can emotionally be trapped in a time when we used these words as a protection or because we truly believed we could not do or be certain  thing, and over time it has become an ingrained habit for us, and that is where the danger lies. By never taking the time to define in your NOW why you are saying no or can't, then you cannot be sure as to whether this is what you really want or if it is just your innate inner child raising it's head and leading you around in automatic emotional mode.
If you see yourself as being that person who is living on automatic, give yourself a gift. A gift of being true to who you are NOW, not the child or wounded adult. Make a decision by taking a few minutes to ask the above questions and then know that if you then say NO or Can't then it is coming from your current truth. Be empowered. Be strong in your resolve. Turn of the automatic control.



Namaste
Debra Rae

K.I.S.S.

I have found that the more I explore the concepts of Universal Energy the more I am influenced physically by them. The last few weeks I have felt really heavy and drained and incapable of being creative. Luckily for me one of my closest friends is a Astrology wizard and can tell me what is in my planetary chart. Normally I can then gather a clearer picture of why things are happening. Then I can gather my energy reserves and put a action plan in place.
For me knowledge is power and enables me to work through outside influences to re-create the balance I need to get through what is happening or to put up temporarily band aids that stay in place until the energy has shifted.
I love the acronym K.I.S.S.
Keep It Simple Stupid.
During these intense energy times this is the best advise I can give myself.
Don't over extend physically or mentally
Don't go into self destruction mode
Don't think this is lasting
And finally be gentle and loving to myself.
Having friends you can talk to in moments of honesty and truth without being enabled to stay in your 'shit' is so important for moving forward. Obstacles are often placed in our ways to teach us and to determine if we are on the right track in life. I like to think that obstacles are 'friendly' things ( I often have to work through these obstacles before I emotionally get to that space.)  
But I have long ago determined that having a positive emotional attitude is one of my greatest abilities and that being stuck feeling sorry for ones self is not going to be a great help long term. When I find myself in those darker times K.I.S.S. helps me move around/up/through to find that light that will always be present and available if you look for it.
If you are in moments of turmoil, don't get trapped in the isolation or sadness of those moments and don't buy into the drama, create a path to balance once again by having your own K.I.S.S. plan in place.
Life is here to be lived, and to be lived with all of its aspects being experienced. How can we understand (emotionally) an easy life if no hardships have touched us? I believe there are many shades of colours in life that touch us and help us form and grow and I embrace them freely as they are one of the foundations that help me mature and hopefully grow into the 'wise woman' I wish to be.
Love and Joy

Namaste
Debra Rae